Wondorous thoughts

I write novels to live and as of now I'm writing one that is closest to my issues as it may ever get...for now anyway. Basically; its a story about a kid who finds out she's a princess thanks to a philandering colonial king who holds his country hostage in his death in exchange for his second family being given a chance at the throne. Unfortunately; as usual; I am having doubts about the romance aspect of the book. Parts of me are going and gunning for different directions. One part wants to turn the character into a conniving scheming bitch; while another wants her to be untouched sexually but still loved (I don't get how that would be possible or why); another wants her to be heartbroken (of which I am inclined) and yet another wants her to have them both (as usual there're the goody two shoes and villainous options) and yet another wants her to have one (the basically goody two shoes). It's a hassle that's got me wondering; does the Almighty go through this with our lives. Does s/he sit and ponder on which direction I should take; you should take? Certain PM's should take? If S/he does; I pity her/him for it's certainly a hard thing to think of leave alone live out.