Dear Some-men

I know it's hard; especially in this day and age when women aren't your mother or cool aunt. When women don't want you to be outright manly but despise you if you are sensitive. I know. That said, there's a reason you're some-men and not the men (in this case, them men being gentlemen with the women they want in their lives). Following rules set up in a time when hard-headed women were punished by being confined in convents and being declared unmarriageable when marriage was all the rage is a dead and gone mentality. You should keep up with the times. Be firm but not condescending and how pray tell do you do that? Well, thank you for not asking.
The reason this comes up is simple: I was having an in depth meet of my mind. Some-men of my age-set are really lousy at the whole wooing game and instead of admitting that they are playing baseball on a tennis court, they blame the tennis court for disallowing baseball bats. Admittedly most girls my age don't know half of what they want in a guy but some of them do and they unfortunately end up with the Losers. Losers because these guys clearly know they have diamonds in their hands but treat their ladies like crystal. They don't keep their promises, they don't keep time, they don't believe in verbal expressions of the sensations their partners evoke in them and they certainly believe as long as they take the girl out for a drink once in a full moon, then it's a date. Even a stray dog can woo better than my peers. What's their excuse? Simple; it's how they were raised. (cue roll of the eyes)
Pardon the digression. Dear some-men, as I was saying; the ladies in your lives may be independent and self-sufficient but your involvement in their lives also calls for effort on your part to stay relevant in their lives and useful. Provide support even when they seem not to want it; compliment randomly and don't hesitate to show affection even if it's not your style. Why are you human if not using the natural instinct to seek out another human's companionship?
Leaving a woman to her own devices usually leads to you being out in the cold...or against alleyway walls having one-night stands at forty. Be firm in your presence in her life but don't railroad her i.e. set dates without the option of having them broken but don't drag her out of a meeting to sit her down at a table and scowl at each other. When walking down a street, have your hand on her back or around her hand firmly but not shoving or cutting off circulation. Hold her like you want her to be with you and you like her being with you. Some-men hold their women like it's a chore. If it's a burden to hold her then let her go. Even if she be a psycho. Save yourself and your well-being the trouble.
Dear Some-men, I understand that having not been raised to be one way makes it hard to be such a way but as long as you can think; you can most definitely change your habits.